There is an Irish blog I read regularly, http://www.sarahcarey.ie/ and last week Sarah wrote a very astute piece on the Monaghan road crash, where five young men from the village of Threemilehouse lost their lives following a horrific road crash.
Sarah raised pertinent questions and queried why it was so many people lost their lives on our roads.
The Road Safety Authority says one-quarter of the 305 road victims this year have been young men aged between 17 and 25. It is a highly charged issue in this country and everyone has an opinion on it.
Yesterday Sarah got this email...
"Angry Threemilehouse Resident said,
November 1, 2006 at 5:23 pm
Speculation is not helping anyone!
Please leave the Garda to complete their investigation and leave the families to grieve.
You should to be ashamed of yourselves."
Discussing a fatal accident on your own blog is tantamount to abusing the families it seems. We bloggers are not to discuss it. No matter that the crash was widely reported in the news and media, no matter that while we feel nothing but great sypmathy for the families involved, we shouldn't discuss it for fear of offending them. We should be ashamed.
Sarah removed the article from her blog. I don't think she should have.
We bloggers discuss all manner of things, family friends, our lives, currant affairs, scandals, gossip, Tom Cruise, food, weightloss, heartbreak, exercise, joy..the little details that make up our worlds. In Ireland the death toll on our roads is a very public, currant and emotive issue. As I said in Sarah's comments yesterday, when disaster strikes it is human nature to discuss it, to mull it over, to open up and question and ponder why?
It is not to cause upset, nor to ride roughshod over the grieving. It is to better understand and deal with events.
I have nothing but sympathy for the family of anyone who has been bereaved, whether it be through an accident, illness, murder or just plain old age. But in a spectualar case such as this of course questions will be asked, hard questions about cause, safety and culpability.
We who write our blogs should be able to discuss issues that interest us. Most of us will do so in a humane way. We will voice our opinions, we will speculate. Most of us we will leave our comments open for those who agree and, just as importantly, for those who do not. Debate is welcome in most cases. We are not infallible.
I cannot speak for Sarah, but I will write what I want when I want on my own blog. I will do so in the manner that I see fit. Though I use a pseudonym I try to be as true to my voice as possible.
My views are my own, my opinion is my own and I will be ashamed of nothing I write.
This is my blog, people can read it or not. That is the great thing about having a choice.